Why IVF Disappointments Happen and How to Overcome Them

Patient: Dr. Malpani, I’ve been feeling so disheartened after my IVF cycle didn’t work. I thought IVF success rates were supposed to be high. Why does this process feel so disappointing?

Dr. Malpani: I’m truly sorry to hear about your experience. IVF is complex, and it’s natural to feel this way. Disappointment often arises from unrealistic expectations, which can be due to misleading information, inflated success rates, or personal hopes that may not align with the realities of treatment.

Patient: But isn’t IVF supposed to work most of the time?

Dr. Malpani: It’s important to understand that success rates are averages, not guarantees. They vary depending on factors like age and diagnosis. Unfortunately, some clinics only highlight their best outcomes, which can give patients unrealistic expectations.

Patient: So how can I make more informed decisions?

Dr. Malpani: Start with thorough research. When comparing clinics, look beyond just success rates—consider their transparency, patient-centred approach, and willingness to explain all aspects of treatment. Ask specific questions about your chances based on your unique circumstances.

Patient: What about the emotional toll? I felt so alone after my cycle failed.

Dr. Malpani: That’s unfortunately a common experience, but it shouldn’t be. A good clinic should offer emotional support, acknowledge how hard this process can be, and guide you through next steps. If a cycle fails, they should analyse the reasons and discuss possible adjustments for future attempts.

Patient: I didn’t get much support after my failed cycle. Is that normal?

Dr. Malpani: Sadly, some clinics do neglect patients after a failure, but it’s not acceptable. You deserve clear communication and compassion throughout your journey. If you feel abandoned, don’t hesitate to seek a second opinion.

Patient: How can I tell if I’ve chosen the right clinic?

Dr. Malpani: A responsible clinic will never make unrealistic promises. They’ll be upfront about limitations, discuss alternatives, and prioritise your emotional well-being. If you’re ever unsure, trust your instincts—advocate for yourself and don’t settle for less than you deserve.

Patient: Thank you, Dr. Malpani. This has been so helpful. How can I consult with you for a second opinion?

Dr. Malpani: I’m happy to help. You can get a free second opinion at www.drmalpani.com/free-second-opinion. or book a video consultation at bit.ly/consult-drmalpani. Let’s work together to ensure you feel supported and empowered throughout your IVF journey.